“Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite.”
Charles Spurgeon, English preacher
I often hear from folks in my audience after I speak, “You are so sincere when you speak. I love what you said”. I learned a long time ago that I could not defend a position or speak about something from my heart, if I did not believe in the point I was trying to make or defend. I guess that is one of the reasons I did not go to law school and become an attorney. If you have ever heard me speak in a small group or a large gathering, you know I speak from my heart. Great leaders know they must learn to do this before they can be impactful over the long haul. After all, how do you speak passionately or stir passion in others if you do not speak from your heart?
As a leader in a large organization during my corporate life, I heard time and time again the CEO of the organization give the same canned speech and use the same forced hand jesters at different stops around the country. We see politicians giving stump speeches that use the same canned phrases or slogans. The same holds true for both. The first time you hear it, you seem to think the person really wants to be helpful or provide change. The second, third, fourth… time you hear it, you realize this is all staged. Where’s the sincerity gone? Where is the truth and heartfelt passion or are they just telling you what they think you want to hear? All of a sudden the insincerity of it all hits you and you lose respect for the speaker. The speaker not only lost the message but also his/her integrity, right?
So how do you speak to those around you with sincerity?
- You have to develop a core set of values and morals. There is an old country song with a verse that states, “you have to believe in something or you will fall for anything”. You cannot speak from the heart if you have no firm beliefs. You have to believe in your heart what is right and wrong, etc.
- You have to speak with conviction. Once you have a core set of values and morals to stand on, stand up for them! If you wave in the wind like a flag during a dust storm when it comes to your values and morals, then no one will believe you when you state something. Why? Because when the wind blows another way, you will say something different tomorrow. You have done it in the past and so people believe you will do it again in the future. You have rendered yourself unbelievable.
- You have to speak with feeling. Be genuine! You can read lots of my blogs and this trait comes up often. If you feel passionate about something…. Be Passionate! Let it go. You do not always have to be stiff-necked to be effective. Speak with some emotion that comes from your heart. Open up. Be yourself and let others see who you are through your speaking about heartfelt issues. Does anyone want to work for a heartless boss? Do you want to be known as a heartless boss? Show us what is in your heart. Speak from the heart and be sincere.
- Walk the talk! We all have heard people say one thing and then these same people turn around and do something totally opposite of what they say or what they are trying to get their audience to do. If you do not walk the talk, how can anyone believe you are sincere? I think the opposite — hypocrisy!
Just be honest, like the person who made the sign in the picture above. At least they were honest with us!
By adhering to just these four principles, you can become more believable, more sincere and get more passionate following from those on your team. It is not rocket science…. it is just being sincere and I sincerely believe each and everyone of us have a calling to be true to ourselves and true to those around us.
Go Get’em! Until next time, Peace…. 🙂